“Mind the gap!”
The gap between the station platform and train could easily cause someone to stumble. The warning was regularly repeated, “Mind the gap!” Everything about London felt new and exciting – even the warning to be careful as I stepped on the metro. I was recently reminded of this scenario and how it correlates to life.
Often there is a gap between my perception of a situation and reality. If I’m not careful, the gap between what I know and all the facts will cause me to stumble and misjudge a person or situation. When someone disappoints me do I give them the benefit of the doubt or do I immediately assume the worst? Do I “mind the gap” and realize I probably do not have all the facts? Or am I quick to judge? Do I talk about someone or with someone to seek clarity?
Andy Stanley once shared, “Never fill in the gap with suspicion.” I love this. Because the natural, human tendency is to assume the worst. Recently Chalene Johnson shared an incredible podcast that touched on this issue. Our brains are wired to need to know why. Unfortunately, we usually assume the worst, because that is better than feeling uncertain. But we don’t have to follow this destructive pattern.
This is where I am: learning to “mind the gap.” In scenarios where I am tempted to judge, I am trying to remind myself that I should first seek clarification. When that isn’t possible, I can always extend grace and try to believe the best about someone.